Every single day since the infamous Oprah interview I wake up to another opinion piece on Harry & Meghan. So I'm going to give mine this morning whether anyone asked for it or not. Which btw no one did but hey it's my blog specifically for that reason.
They have been married for over four years and Meghan is still talking about Kate making her cry before the wedding even though she says she "forgave her". It's obvious you have not. If the lead-up to the nuptials was so stressful, which I imagine it was, why didn't your closest girlfriends take the needed steps to shield you from it? That's what they are around for. And surely you had a wedding planner? Or a team of them! They should have been taking care of those final details, not you. Those of us on a budget might have to but not someone marrying into the British monarchy. It is time to move on or stop pretending to have forgiven her. Pick one.
Harry is NOT a mental health expert. He can tell his own story. Explain his own way of dealing with things and what works for him. But he has no formal training in how to diagnose, treat or recover from any form of mental illness. That is important to remember. His story may help you deal with your own or give you ideas on how to cope which is wonderful. But we cannot pretend that he has any expertise beyond his own life and doing so is careless at best.
They are elitists. Their home cost close to 20 million dollars. They are not sitting in coach or waiting for a table at any restaurant. I'm sure there are multiple nannies in the picture and a driver. Not to mention security details around the clock. And while "Meg" might be making the occasional waffle for Archie she is not scrubbing a toilet or cleaning the chicken coop! I would bet money her hubby has never done either in his life! I just wish they would stop trying to pretend they are just like us.
I'm sorry they have both had to deal with mental illness. The idea that while pregnant Meghan thought about suicide is very sad. I hope she gets the help that she needs to heal and that they both are able to live healthy & happy lives with their children.
Harry's break-up with his family was in my opinion innevitable. He married someone who had only one family member at a wedding of 600. Meghan doesn't speak to most of her immediate relatives and most likely would not encourage her husband to do the hard work it takes to have a healthy and supportive extended family. In her experience it probably seems pointless. If they are like other couples I know in this situation, they will become abosrbed in their own little core unit with friends taking up the positions of aunts and uncles.
They stretch the truth. Why I don't call it lying is a Canadian niceness flaw I suppoose. Saying they got married before the actual wedding was a whopper. They didn't call it a symbolic wedding. They said they called the Archbishop of Canterbury, there is that elitist lifestyle I was mentioning previously, and got married in their backyard three days before the ceremony millions watched on television. Not true. Why would you lie about that? For what purpose? Then my personal favorite...Harry saying he didn't realize their security would be taken away while in Canada after they stepped away from royal duties. Really? I knew about the IPP (International Protected Persons) list and who pays for security when they travel. How could he not? They were well aware that Canada was footing the bill for their 24/7 security costs and that once they left the IPP they would have to provide, and pay for, their own. That's why they left Canada as fast as they did. Yet they lied pretending it was a big shock to them. Not buying it.
It goes without saying that racism should not exist and it is awful how Meghan was treated by the press and many people based soley on the color of her skin. While as an adult she could better deal with it, it's heartbreaking to think that someone could have hatred towards a child. They are the innocents and must be protected from any bigotry and hate though I imagine it won't be all sunshine in the United States for him either.
My final thought on all the hoopla...Stop talking to Oprah. Go to therapy. Raise your kids. Create your own life. Stop blaming others, even if it is their fault, and work on getting healthy. You have two small children focus on them.
Until then, I'm going to adjust my filters so I can start the days off with some real news!
Ang
