Do you know who Jessica from Aggressive Tutorials is? How about Brooke Ervin? Heather from Mrs Browns Kitchen? Well, if you don't, you should. They are three very successful social media "cooks". I used "quotation marks" because they do so much more than bake and prepare meals. They entertain, they educate, and they make us smile. All without making us feel less than. They are far from perfect and not Martha Stewart wannabes. They are you and me. So why is it that when women share on social media, other women take that as a challenge to tear down what they have created? Aren't we better than that?
A little backstory on our subjects...Jessica and Brooke are moms of young kids, so you know they are tired. Heather has no kids but is married. For the sake of this post only, and the point I'm trying to make, I need to mention that one is overweight, one is gay, and one has an eating disorder. Why? Well, those are the exact things they are being criticized for. In 2026. How ridiculous is that?
On any given day, you will read comments from women trying to belittle their accomplishments. Lots of men too, but honestly, I expect more from women, I just do. And what is always the loudest criticism? Their recipes? Their lack of real measuring? Nope, the comments range from "you're too fat" to "I hate gay people." With a little "you should take better care of your kids" thrown in for good measure. Not to mention "get that cat off the counter."
If you don't like what, how, or by whom something is being presented, click to something else. No one is forcing you to stay on that site, reel, or TikTok. No one. But instead of moving on, you somehow feel obligated to comment about what you hate in a nasty way. So, my fellow women, I ask the question...why?
Does it make you feel superior? Do you think others are reading your comment and thinking, "wow this person is amazing"? Are you jealous? Think you could do better? Is something missing in your life? What trauma is making you behave this way?
Let me tell you a simple truth. These women have heard it all before. Many, many, many times. Think you are the first person to tell Heather you hate her, and she's going to hell? Think again. Do you think Jessica isn't aware of her size? I 1000% guaranttee you she is. Or telling Brooke she should really stop eating so much fried food is going to be an "aha moment" in her life? Ummm nope.
Women need to build each other up. We've got enough to deal with. If you can't help lift, then at least don't add any weight to our lives. Stay quiet and move along. Remember your mother saying if you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all? That rule still applies. Or maybe, just maybe, try to figure out why you are compelled to judge total strangers in such a demeaning way.
We need to be better. We just do.
Ang
