Sorry

  I've heard repeatedly this week that Donald Trump needs to apologize for the comments he made during the U.S. election. You know the ones....racists, murderers, bleeding, Miss Housekeeping, walls, and on and on and on. That this would be a huge step in the process of bringing the country together. But would it?

  We teach our kids that words damage people and that sometimes even if you say sorry it's not enough. The person might not forgive you. You might lose their friendship and/or trust. Does that same truth not apply to so called "celebrities"? Are there no consequences?

  Well obviously not because he is going to be the next president. But can an apology really change anyone's opinion of him? I have had arguments with lots of people over the years while bartending. Of every color, religion and ethnicity. Not once did I ever use a racial, religious or cultural slur when confronted with angry, disgruntled people. Never. Nor did anyone I ever worked with. Ever. It's not who I am. 

  There is a saying I love "When someone shows you who they are believe them!". If someone automatically goes for the bigoted comment, that's who they are, a bigot. If someone uses racist jargon, that's who they are, a racist. If someone says disgusting, spiteful comments about women, they are misogynistic. Believe them.

  Donald Trump is the man he appeared to be during the election. He is everything we tell our children not to be. No amount of apologizing will change that. Especially when it is a paid lackey who is telling him to do it. There would be no sincerity in his words.

  If it makes you feel better to have him give an insincere apology well....remember that the next time someone says those things about you.

  Ang